The maturity of time.
People change. Everyone does - - all the time.
It's part of a normal process, a slow evolution as time passes by, moments come and go. As the butterfly spurs out from its larvae and flaps its wings for the first time - - so do we with small baby steps. We get up from the floor and learn to walk, talk, eat and sleep on our own. The difference is we get to think; to act based solely on rationale, to control our instincts; or ignore them as we see fit.
As the ignorant species we have become we think this is all good, superior; the better end of all living things. In ourselves we entrust the power to suppress all other living beings - - including our own. Our search for power is so darkly rooted in the soul of our ancestors that in the darkest period of our time we killed more people than were born. All the while calling it justice.
It's not about one individual making a change, its about whole segments of people blindly following a thread, never questioning its cause or standing up and fighting. No one asks anyone to go the distance alone, all that is asked is to be true to yourself, to not fall subject to society rather than own opinions.
This has never been more real than today. Today we get up and find ourselves standing in the middle of two Facebook pages, 14 Twitter updates, 20 tv channels, 4 million paper ads and 3 billion people pushing in different directions every day. And on top of that governments around the world feel we need to store all this information, on a misguided chance that it might lead to prosecutions of more "criminals". But what is more criminal than a democracy that is all about cohesion and not the rights of the people. How can one person make a change when your task is to fight against the opinion of a Facebook group of 20 million people.
How do we stay true to ourselves and realize that it is not the clothes we wear, the things we are born to be or the sex we have grown into that makes us who we are. It's the individual inside, each and everyone thinks for themselves. Why not use our thoughts as it is and abandon the search for something to follow. All religion is all about gaining followers, it's never about true belief. True belief of something stems from own experiences, not a written text. The flying spaghetti monster is as real as the divine trinity. If you tell a child to fly, he will fly. If you tell a priest the same, he will tell you only God can. Everyone can fly, its all about the willingness to try.
Follow yourself, your own thoughts, make yourself real.
Why is it that most people find it easier to follow an unproven truth based on vague descriptions and argue its validity over solid proof of its falseness?
Why is it that so many choose to believe that all women likes horses, plays with dolls and is all about feelings and never driven by sex, while men likes cars, action figures and are born to be tough soldiers with one thing on their minds?
Yes, it's in our instincts and all the scientist in the world agrees they have found brain patterns that support this, but they all neglect to include the fact that it all has to do with enticement. If you put boys in an environment where you are punished for crying; or told that playing with dolls is against the grain, against nature - - almost like a sin. They are bound to be pushed into one direction; society's direction - - only given one option.
All this will only lead to one thing; a misguided individual who will act upon this law until a painful realization comes to mind or death comes first.
A whole breed of shrinks have spent their lives trying to find out how bullying can be prevented. Instead of focusing on the real problem; changing limitation of choices, they are using countless hours of forced treatment on already lost cases.
For our society to mature, to go forward, rather than staying put or going backwards we have to let up on old meanings of how a person should be, on how a man / woman are. Give our child a chance to find himself / herself on their own, let them choose what they want to play with.
Don't stigmatize based on your opinions and cohere them into believing it as absolute truths.
Let ourselves win over old ideals, let us forget truths written in stone and rethink our world based on knowledge.
Turn off the TV, turn off the Internet and walk around in your own mind. See the world as it is, as it has become. Make a choice to acknowledge the fact that an individual is subject of its childhood and tell them everyday what they are today and not what they have been or could have been.
People change all the time, they just seldom realize it themselves. Encourage their own opinions and agree to disagree, rather than disagree to agree. Give everyone a new chance and always leave open the possibility that someone you got to know 5 years ago is different today. Just as you have evolved.
An old classmate might have been a jerk or someone you never got to know 10 years ago, but always give them a chance to show their inner self as they are now. Update your status quo, listen to their story and relearn your view of them, or they will never do the same with you.
Never forget that we all change at different paces. That the maturity of time goes at a steady pace and encompasses us all, young or old, white or black, man or woman.
Learn to fly on broken wings, and you will see that they are no longer broken.
It's part of a normal process, a slow evolution as time passes by, moments come and go. As the butterfly spurs out from its larvae and flaps its wings for the first time - - so do we with small baby steps. We get up from the floor and learn to walk, talk, eat and sleep on our own. The difference is we get to think; to act based solely on rationale, to control our instincts; or ignore them as we see fit.
As the ignorant species we have become we think this is all good, superior; the better end of all living things. In ourselves we entrust the power to suppress all other living beings - - including our own. Our search for power is so darkly rooted in the soul of our ancestors that in the darkest period of our time we killed more people than were born. All the while calling it justice.
It's not about one individual making a change, its about whole segments of people blindly following a thread, never questioning its cause or standing up and fighting. No one asks anyone to go the distance alone, all that is asked is to be true to yourself, to not fall subject to society rather than own opinions.
This has never been more real than today. Today we get up and find ourselves standing in the middle of two Facebook pages, 14 Twitter updates, 20 tv channels, 4 million paper ads and 3 billion people pushing in different directions every day. And on top of that governments around the world feel we need to store all this information, on a misguided chance that it might lead to prosecutions of more "criminals". But what is more criminal than a democracy that is all about cohesion and not the rights of the people. How can one person make a change when your task is to fight against the opinion of a Facebook group of 20 million people.
How do we stay true to ourselves and realize that it is not the clothes we wear, the things we are born to be or the sex we have grown into that makes us who we are. It's the individual inside, each and everyone thinks for themselves. Why not use our thoughts as it is and abandon the search for something to follow. All religion is all about gaining followers, it's never about true belief. True belief of something stems from own experiences, not a written text. The flying spaghetti monster is as real as the divine trinity. If you tell a child to fly, he will fly. If you tell a priest the same, he will tell you only God can. Everyone can fly, its all about the willingness to try.
Follow yourself, your own thoughts, make yourself real.
Why is it that most people find it easier to follow an unproven truth based on vague descriptions and argue its validity over solid proof of its falseness?
Why is it that so many choose to believe that all women likes horses, plays with dolls and is all about feelings and never driven by sex, while men likes cars, action figures and are born to be tough soldiers with one thing on their minds?
Yes, it's in our instincts and all the scientist in the world agrees they have found brain patterns that support this, but they all neglect to include the fact that it all has to do with enticement. If you put boys in an environment where you are punished for crying; or told that playing with dolls is against the grain, against nature - - almost like a sin. They are bound to be pushed into one direction; society's direction - - only given one option.
All this will only lead to one thing; a misguided individual who will act upon this law until a painful realization comes to mind or death comes first.
A whole breed of shrinks have spent their lives trying to find out how bullying can be prevented. Instead of focusing on the real problem; changing limitation of choices, they are using countless hours of forced treatment on already lost cases.
For our society to mature, to go forward, rather than staying put or going backwards we have to let up on old meanings of how a person should be, on how a man / woman are. Give our child a chance to find himself / herself on their own, let them choose what they want to play with.
Don't stigmatize based on your opinions and cohere them into believing it as absolute truths.
Let ourselves win over old ideals, let us forget truths written in stone and rethink our world based on knowledge.
Turn off the TV, turn off the Internet and walk around in your own mind. See the world as it is, as it has become. Make a choice to acknowledge the fact that an individual is subject of its childhood and tell them everyday what they are today and not what they have been or could have been.
People change all the time, they just seldom realize it themselves. Encourage their own opinions and agree to disagree, rather than disagree to agree. Give everyone a new chance and always leave open the possibility that someone you got to know 5 years ago is different today. Just as you have evolved.
An old classmate might have been a jerk or someone you never got to know 10 years ago, but always give them a chance to show their inner self as they are now. Update your status quo, listen to their story and relearn your view of them, or they will never do the same with you.
Never forget that we all change at different paces. That the maturity of time goes at a steady pace and encompasses us all, young or old, white or black, man or woman.
Learn to fly on broken wings, and you will see that they are no longer broken.
posted by Øyvind at 03:54
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